(After reading this through, I don’t feel like there needs to be a warning on this post. It’s back to being unnecessarily deep and there aren’t any mentions of anything triggering.)
I’ve often thought about what would happen if all of our decisions were completely made by ourselves; nobody else to have any say-so about it, nobody to have any influence over the decision at all, but ourselves. Most people would find this freeing and enjoy it, but I feel like there has to be more to it than just anarchy.
And then I usually come to the conclusion that we would all not lead very efficient lifestyles because there had been nobody to help us along at all. But then I think about how everything has been affected by everything else in one way or another. Our own decisions, our independent, unaffected opinion does not exist.
It’s a term that describes our state of mind when it hasn’t been affected by anyone or anything, a blank slate. And when people talk about it or explain it, they usually use the example of a newborn. I would agree; there is no other time in our lives where we are truly unaffected by anything. From the minute someone begins to raise us, their speech, attitude, tone, behaviour influence our attitude, behaviour, personality. Our living conditions also play a big part. We are not our own personality. We’re all just a combination of everything that has influenced us over the course of our lives.
I think the best example of this is the show Orphan Black. All the women are clones, but they were brought up in different environments and that’s why they have very different personalities.
That’s why there was a study that said that we end up having the average personality of the five people whom we spend the most time around.
Personally, I wouldn’t consider myself the most independent person. I rely on a lot people to be able to help me throughout the week, and without the influence of these people, I doubt I would feel the way I do or have the same opinions about the things I care about. I wouldn’t be “Opinionated Li’l Kaity”.
So I guess what I’m trying to say is that you shouldn’t let anyone pressure you into thinking that your bad decisions are entirely your fault. What you do is simply a reflection of the way that you’ve grown. Nothing is entirely bad and your decisions aren’t your own. We’re all connected and end up affecting each other in one way or another.
P.S. Does anyone confirm the rumor about there being a new High School Musical movie